Happy longevity
These days, I find myself reflecting on what it truly means to live a long life. As Korea joins many other nations in becoming an aging society, efforts are underway across government institutions and individuals to prepare for the challenges this shift presents.
A long life is often considered a blessing, yet longevity alone does not guarantee happiness. If one lives many years in pain, illness or loneliness, it can feel more like a burden than a gift. True longevity should be healthy, purposeful and joyful.
I know a man nearing 90 who exemplifies this. Every time he visits the hospital, doctors warn him, “You might not wake up from this treatment.” He signs the forms, shrugs, and returns — still strong. For over five years, he’s repeated this routine, yet continues to climb mountains, read English and Japanese texts, keep up with global affairs and enjoy meals with friends. His spirit remains as vibrant as ever.
When he says, “Let’s have one last meal, just in case,” I feel like replying, “Stop crying wolf. You’ll bounce back again.” His case is a testament not only to his mindset but also to the strength of Korea’s modern healthcare system.
Of course, not everyone is as fortunate. My second-eldest brother was diagnosed with cancer in his early 40s and endured a long, painful battle for nearly 25 years before passing away at 66 in 2022. His suffering — and the burden on our family — was immense. Yet even in pain, he urged us to live joyfully and help others without being a burden. He would say, “Life is short — enjoy it while doing some good for society.”
From these two contrasting lives, I’ve come to believe that longevity is shaped by a blend of personal effort, medical care and fate. It is neither fully in our control nor entirely predetermined. Our lives unfold somewhere between those two forces.
Regardless of age, we all wish to live long — and well. Qin Shi Huang, the founder of the Qin dynasty and the first emperor of China, also sought ways to prolong life. He searched for immortality, and myths like the phoenix reflected humanity’s timeless longing for eternal life. These symbols express our age-old desire not just to live long, but to live meaningfully and without suffering. So, what is the secret to a happy long life?
Numerous books and traditions provide countless answers, but ultimately, each person must find their own. I believe the essence lies in the mind. Accepting life as it is — with less complaining, less greed and more gratitude — frees us from bitterness and leads to peace. As one elder wisely said, “The rest of life is a bonus. Enjoy it.”
The ancient Chinese philosopher Lao-tzu once said, “Those who know contentment are never disgraced.” Even 2,500 years ago, he grasped the essence of true longevity. Today, with modern medicine on our side, we may not only live longer — but also, perhaps, live happier. After all, what good is a long life if it isn’t a fulfilling one?
Shin Hye-suk (sinesu@naver.com), who also goes by Shindy, completed a doctorate in sociology and has devoted two decades of her life to academic pursuits at a university in Japan. She is also a florist and has served as president of the Rotary International Seoul Club Korea.