(166) It made me feel better
By Janet Shin
Everybody needs consolation as we all have some kind of sorrow in our lives. Even those who seem happy and successful, have scars in their minds which need healing.
Others might not understand how painful a wound is, but it is distressing for the person directly involved.
Ordinary people seek various ways to heal their hurt. They may confess it to close friends or see a doctor when professional help is required. But it is not always easy to find a solution. Deep scars in their minds are not easy to cure.
People with high self-esteem often deny the fact they have problems and face an even harder time opening up. Successful people do not easily disclose their agony as they are often anxious about losing reputation. Meanwhile many people gasp in surprise or relief when their inner anguish is uncovered by saju. I have seen many of them cry during consultations.
A beautiful young lady visited me for counsel on her marriage fortunes. She submitted a slip of paper with the birthdays of two men written on it. She wanted to know of her “gunghap,” or marital harmony, with both of them. First, I read her saju and then the first man’s. And I could tell they might have broken up last year. When this was delivered, from that moment she couldn’t get her words out properly. She was crying. After splitting up with the previous guy last year, she met a new one early this year.
It wasn’t difficult to see that her gunghap was better with the second man. But the saju also read she has leftover emotional torment with the first one. And it was even worse with the first man and she knew that. He regretted separating and still missed her. I cautiously asked her if she was going to marry the new guy and advised her of bitter feelings in her.
Even though they had already set a wedding date, and she couldn’t go back on it, she still recalls the happy days with her ex-boyfriend. He was such an attractive and humorous person, and people liked him immediately.
A small quarrel led them to split up and she met the second man who has a steady job and seemingly better conditions in every aspect. He was also from a harmonious family while the previous one wasn’t. Regardless of all these irresistible conditions, she couldn’t feel any affection toward the man she met this year. He is thorough and seldom makes mistakes but has a lack of consideration for others including her.
She was born with yang water energy. The strong metal element in a year pillar indicates she has a useful license. She majored in art in college and received a teacher’s certificate. Being born as water and having lots of earth elements suggest troublesome relationships with boyfriends and she is hurt.
Looking at her ex-boy friend’s saju, we can see that he was born with yang earth energy. Having lots of expression stars indicates he is a caring person, although it may quite often cause misapprehension. All three branches of year, month and day are clashing and penalized among themselves.
This implies complicated family stories and fluctuations in his life path. For a water day master woman, yang earth looks manly and generous but he has an instable life and he could be a burden to her. The metal elements in his saju, however, are mental shelters.
On the other hand, the new boyfriend was born with a yang water day master. Having lots of water energy tells how self-centered he is. It just proves what she expressed.
In conclusion, her new boyfriend will provide realistic support for her. It is because she was weakened by strong earth elements. And the strong water energy of the man can potentiate her day master.
I also explained how she feels having painful memories about her past love. Opening up a deep wound definitely made her sad. After our conversation, however, she said it consoled her a lot. She called me afterwards and said she had found some peace.
Information: Are you interested in learning more about the ancient Chinese teaching about the “Four Pillars of Destiny?” For further information, visit Janet’s website at www.fourpillarskorea.com, contact her at 010-5414-7461 or email janetshin@hotmail.com.
The writer is the president of the Heavenly Garden, a saju research center in Korea, and the author of “Learning Four Pillars.”