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Sat, July 2, 2022 | 06:07
Health & Science
Same-sex couples flee to wed
Posted : 2017-08-16 16:34
Updated : 2017-08-21 17:43
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Expats call for legalization of same-sex marriage


By You Soo-sun

This wedding cake symbolizes the marriage of Chris and Ari, a Korean female couple who wed in Canada, 2013. / Courtesy of Chris and Ari
This wedding cake symbolizes the marriage of Chris and Ari, a Korean female couple who wed in Canada, 2013. / Courtesy of Chris and Ari
Same-sex marriage in Korea is unlikely to be legalized in the foreseeable future. For some, fleeing is no longer a choice, but a necessity to have their marriage recognized. The Korea Times interviewed same-sex couples to understand what marriage means for them and what it is like to live in a place where it is banned.

Chris and Ari, a Korean female couple in their 40s, wed in Canada four years ago. Their parents and relatives are still unaware of this.

"My father tells me marriage (between man and wife) is a duty one owes to his or her parents. The pain I suffer from hiding our marriage is my way of fulfilling that duty," Chris said.

They often feel misunderstood, even by their close friends. "They do not consider our relationship as being serious. They see us as close friends living together," Chris explained. "There was an instance when a friend asked my wife to receive a bouquet at her wedding… It was shocking."

They plan on returning to Canada, or another country in North America, for good this time to live normally as married partners. "Marriage is a basic right. It's what pulls lovers together and makes them feel more responsible for each other," she said. "I just want to live in a place where I'm not legally discriminated against, and where I can protect my lover."

As Korea is no such place, same-sex couples have no choice but to move abroad if they wish to get married and have their marriage recognized.

This wedding cake symbolizes the marriage of Chris and Ari, a Korean female couple who wed in Canada, 2013. / Courtesy of Chris and Ari
On the top of this wedding cake are miniatures of Simon Hunter-Williams and his Korean partner. The two men got married in Birmingham, London in 2015. / Courtesy of Simon Hunter-Williams
In 2015, Simon Hunter-Williams, 33, got married to his Korean partner in his hometown of Birmingham, England. The two men wed under British law, as Seoul ― the place where they met ― bans matrimony between people of the same sex. But soon they returned to Seoul, a place they wish to call home.

"I just want normal things like raising a family, where our children won't be bullied for having two male parents, where we will have basic marriage rights," Hunter-Williams said. When he consulted lawyers about the issue, they simply suggested: "leave Korea." But even before returning to Seoul, their relationship was often a subject of laughter and mockery. At the Korean Embassy in London, where Hunter-Williams tried to apply for a spouse visa, he was told "there was no such thing as a Korean man who would marry (him)." He tried to register his marriage in Korea, but officials would either "laugh in (his) face" or were "just plain rude."

Hunter-Williams has been very vocal about this issue. In 2015, he confronted Seoul Mayor Park Won-soon at a town meeting with over 100 attendees. He asked for legal recognition of his marriage, a way to help him stay in Korea with the man he loves.

Recently he submitted a petition to President Moon Jae-in, the Minister of Justice, and to the Commissioner of Immigration seeking legalization of same-sex marriage. And although he is aware this attempt may be futile, as officials and lawyers tell him, he is determined to carry on. He asked many to participate in his online petition.


This wedding cake symbolizes the marriage of Chris and Ari, a Korean female couple who wed in Canada, 2013. / Courtesy of Chris and Ari
Simon Hunter-Williams questions Seoul Mayor Park Won-soon over LGBT rights at a town hall meeting in Seoul, 2013. / Courtesy of Lee Tae-hoon


Expats speak out


Many, who reached out to The Korea Times, were expats with Korean partners. And for those who came from a country where same-sex marriage is legal, it was a right that was taken away.

"My feeling to live in a country that doesn't allow me to marry someone I love is a feeling of powerlessness," said a 46 year-old man from Latin America, who referred to himself as Pablo. He is a Ph.D. student at a university outside of Seoul. "To see my foreigner straight friends getting married to Koreans and to attend the wedding makes me cry because I don't have the same opportunity: getting married and having the opportunity to stay in Korea for a long time."

And although he enjoys living here and wishes to stay, it gets suffocating. As a foreigner, he feels far more isolated. "It seems contradictory to live in a country that I like, a country that has given me opportunities to improve my professional skills but at the same time, doesn't allow me to marry the man I love," he said.

Others also shared their thoughts. "It has been legal in my country of South Africa since 2006, and it would allow thousands of people here to be able to live a life equal to their straight peers," Megan Bursey, 27, said. She has a Korean girlfriend whose parents are unaware of her sexual identity. "It is time for Korea to join the rest of the developed world in recognizing gay marriage and granting LGBT people equality under the law."






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