“I got irritated if the period is delayed even one day. So did I when I used condom and took a birth control pill. I prayed deep when I was waiting for the outcome of pregnancy test. Please, only this time, let me not to be pregnant. I got stiffened when two lines appeared.” (In the movie “Two Lines”)
Prolonged period and ensuing nervousness, and fear about probable pregnancy are the feelings a large number of unmarried couples undergo at least once. The complex emotion of the couples are well expressed with ‘two’ red lines in the movie, “Two Lines.”
As many as 65.1 percent of females and 53.7 percent of males questioned replied that they worried most about ‘pregnancy’ when asked about their filling just before sex, according a survey by the sexual violence consultancy center run by private Korea Womenlink, which handles women affairs.
The outcome has come in the survey for 956 youths in their 20s on how to communicate with each other about their sex for two months from July.
Except the pregnancy problem, males and females showed quite different kinds of worries. As many as 43.3 percent of males worried whether they could satisfy their female counterparts and 22.1 percent feared that their female partners may misunderstand they are sex addicts.
On the other hands, females worried most about their body shape or style (27.2 percent) and losing of virginity (18.6 percent).
The survey indicates the dual standard of the Korean society lying deep about males and females. There are still many women who have been obsessed with beauty and virginity under the patriarchal order in Korea. Under the situation that appearance is a factor of female assessments, females are obliged to pay attention to ‘beauty.’
Similar phenomenon can be seen on the part of males. Males are under the heavy mental pressure that they have to satisfy their partners sexually to show their manliness. The fervor for ‘viagra’ which once swept the world might be one of the phenomena embedded deep in male’s mind, said the Womenlink.
According to the survey, the largest portion or 41.3 percent of the respondents replied that they check eyes and facial expression of their counterparts in confirming that they are allowed to make physical affection. In the similar way, most of the surveyed replied that they use indirect expressions, such as pulling their body from or pushing away their counterpart when they reject physical romance.
Most of the youths fail to communicate with their counterparts or fail to meet each other’s desire and thought, although it is very important for a couple to share emotion of each other prior to sex, the body said.
“It is important to make it clear what they want from their counterparts and how they feel in an honest and precise manner as the factors are basic for sound sexual communications,” said a spokesperson of Korean Womenlink