DEAR ABBY: I'm divorced with a young son. My ex-husband and I share joint custody, and for the most part it has worked well. My problem is that my ex is very bitter about our divorce and the fact I have moved on with my life. He constantly makes derogatory comments to me in front of our son and others. It is bad enough that my son must witness this, but my ex has taken it a step further. He is the editor of a small newspaper and is now making disparaging comments about me in his column. He is trying to improve his image at my expense; however, I am unable to respond because he won't print a rebuttal in his paper. The abuse continues despite the divorce, but now the audience is wider. Is this ethical journalism, and how can I put a stop to it? -- FRUSTRATED EX DEAR FRUSTRATED EX: Using a newspaper column to continue a personal vendetta over a failed marriage is not ethical journalism, although it may make for titillating reading. You do not have to tolerate his public sniping. Take the offensive clippings to your lawyer and ask him or her to write a strong letter to the publisher of the newspaper -- because THAT'S who will be liable if there are grounds for a lawsuit.
** ** ** ** ** DEAR ABBY: When is it appropriate to ask a stepparent about a deceased parent's will? I don't want to cause any hard feelings, but I think that at some point I have a right to know about my parent's will. -- CATHY IN GEORGIA DEAR CATHY: Of course you have the right to know about the contents of your parent's will. I don't know how long your parent has been gone, but if it has been more than a month, contact his or her attorney and inquire.
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