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  Date : 2012-06-12
In-laws’ invitation snubs still rankle after 27 years

시댁 친척의 외면하는 듯한 초대장은 27년이 지난 지금도 저를 속상하게 합니다
 
IN-LAWS' INVITATION SNUBS STILL RANKLE AFTER 27 YEARS
 
DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband, "Stu," for 27 years. His brother's family continues to send invitations addressed only to Stu. When they call to invite us to anything and I answer, they ask to speak to him. He has asked them not to do that.
 
When RSVPing to the latest invitation to our niece's graduation party -- addressed only to my husband -- I said that he would attend as he was the only one invited. I also asked if I had done something to offend anyone. I was told, "No, of course not," and they were "sorry if there was a misunderstanding," because the invite was for the whole family.
 
When we see each other, they are polite. I feel that pushing the point or not attending would reflect badly on me. What do you suggest? I am hurt by years of this treatment, and Stu is just as offended. -- HAD ENOUGH IN NEW HAMPSHIRE
 
DEAR HAD ENOUGH: Either your brother-in-law and his family never learned how to properly address an invitation (i.e., "Mr. and Mrs." or "and family"), or on some emotional level you were never accepted as a full-fledged family member. As I see it, you have two choices: Continue to attend these events as you have for the past 27 years, or both of you decline and tell them exactly why.
  
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DEAR ABBY: My mother retired and since I have a degree and background in finance, she asked me to help her get her finances in order. She held low-paying jobs most of her working life, so I was pleasantly surprised to find she had amassed a substantial amount of money in her retirement and other accounts.
 
Together, Mom and I developed a budget that will not only pay her bills, but will also give her a certain amount of spending money each month while still allowing her savings to grow. Despite my assurances, she still won't treat herself to dinners out or go on nice vacations even though she says she'd like to do those things. How can I convince her that she deserves those things and she has the money now to enjoy them? ­ WANTS THE BEST FOR MOM IN MICHIGAN 
 
DEAR WANTS THE BEST FOR MOM: Recognize that the habits of a lifetime can be difficult to break. Your mother might be more open to dinners out if you go together. As to the vacations, do some research for her online or talk to a travel agent and get some brochures for vacation spots you think she might enjoy. It doesn't have to be fancy or exotic ­ the greatest adventure can start with baby steps. Be patient and you may find she becomes receptive.
  
* snub 모욕감을 주다 (=to rebuff, ignore or spurn disdainfully)

* rankle 속상하게 하다 (=to cause continuing annoyance or resentment)

* offend 기분 나쁘게 하다 (=to cause to feel upset, annoyed, or resentful)

* reflect badly on ~의 인상을 나쁘게 하다 (=to bring about a bad impression of)

* full-fledged 제대로 자격을 갖춘 (=having full qualification, credentials or preparation)

* amass 모으다, 축적하다 (=to collect for oneself)
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